ZERO EDUCATION, PLEASE HELP?

I'm a virgin and never had (I'm 21). I'm very curious about having (I don't have a boyfriend) have a few questions about it though. This is embarring, but my mother kept me out of ed cles when I was younger so that I wouldn't learn about reproduction and when I "became of age" she didn't tell me about it either. So I'm very in the dark about . I have a couple of questions that are boggling my mind: I noticed that I have a huge hard ball-like piece of flesh on the outside on my , is that considered the hymen? And what will happen to it the first time I have ? I never noticed it before. After sex how do you clean out your ? I heard about douche bags, but don't know what they are or how they work. I'm so sorry for the questions, if there is anything else you'd like to tell me as well, it would be much appreciated. Basically think of my sexual knowledge of that of a childs, haha. I have no intentions of running out and having sex, but I do want to be prepared.